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Trans Teens Online Chatroom

Hours

Ages 19 and Younger

Thursdays:
4 PM - 7 PM/pacific
7 PM - 10 PM/eastern

Fridays:

5 PM - 7 PM/pacific
8 PM - 10 PM/eastern

 

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GENERAL CODE OF CONDUCT

-Our rooms are welcoming and affirming. Please do not assume anyone's gender or sexual orientation.  Please respect and use a person's chosen name and pronouns.

-We do not permit hate speech. Sexist, homophobic, transphobic, biphobic, or body-shaming jokes or comments are not allowed. 

-Do not share personal information about yourself or others. 

-Be respectful and considerate of others.  

-Be open to learning and be will open to others who may have had a different life experiences than your own. 

-Do not spam or flood the chatroom, NO TROLLS!

-We may not always agree with each other in a conversation, but chatters agree to be respectful to each other and their opinions. 

-Do not enter to room just to create discord, start a fight or argument.  We are here to form community and to up-lift each other. 

-Chatters will follow the guidelines brought up in the chatroom of the moderator whose mission is to keep the room safe for all chatters.  

INSTRUCTIONS: 

This is NOT a hookup/sex site. Giving out your personal contact information is prohibited. 

When the room is closed you will see a chat window with the message

"Room Closed..."

When the room is open you will see the name of a moderator.  

Once in, you can create a name and pick an icon to use. Do not use your full name or other identifying contact information.

The moderators are responsible for keeping the room safe. While you can IM the moderator privately, please do not overwhelm them with messages.

Personal Safety Plan

Step One
What are some things that you can recognize in yourself which can remind you to use this safety plan? For example, any thoughts, emotions, or behaviors that may be a warning that a crisis is developing.​

Examples: racing thoughts, feeling hopeless, feeling sad or down, feeling depressed, thoughts of cutting, stressful events

Step Two
What can you do to make sure that your environment is safe?

Examples: removing any weapons, pills, or other objects which could pose a health or safety risk, holding a soft or harmless object to keep hands busy.

Step Three
What are some internal coping strategies that you can use?

Examples: meditate, exercise, listen to music, watch a movie/tv show/youtube, writing, etc.

Step Four
Who are some people that you know or organizations you can call to either talk about this with you, or distract you?

Examples: LGBT National Help Center, Suicide Prevention Lifeline, therapist, school counselor, teacher, trusted friends or family members.

Example Suicide Hotline: 1-800-SUICIDE or 988
Example: LGBT National Hotline: 1-888-843-4564
Example: Trevor Project: 866-488-7386

Step Five
Where are some safe places that you can go to either get help or distract you?

Examples: a local coffee shop, library, local mall, taking a walk (in a safe place at a safe time), local LGBT community center, support group, social group, etc.

Alternative to Cutting and Self-Harm

Some people cut or self-harm to try to cope with pain or strong emotions, intense pressure, or upsetting problems. It may be a way to have control in a situation where someone can feel helpless. It can be a way to express pain that can’t be put into words. It can be a way to feel something (even if it’s pain) at a time when one is having trouble being able to feel anything at all.

The relief that comes from self-harm does not last long. It can quickly be followed by feelings like guilt or shame. It can become addictive.

It’s possible to hurt yourself badly. ​Finding coping techniques or finding other outlets can help in times when a person feels the need to cut.

Below are lists of ideas to focus on, instead of self-harming.

 

To Express Pain/ Intense Emotion

  • Start a journal/blog/vlog

  • Write a story or poetry

  • Compose music

  • Paint/draw/color

  • Play a musical instrument

  • Scribble on paper

  • Create something in clay

  • Sing

  • Talk to yourself

  • Build/craft something

To release tension or vent anger

  • Exercise

  • Punch a pillow

  • Throw socks

  • Use a stress ball

  • Make noise/scream as loud as you can
(in a safe or private space)

  • Squeeze clay

  • Stomp your boots

  • Instead of cutting, cover yourself in band-aids

  • Write the names of special people or thoughts on your arms

  • Tear up an old newspaper

  • Draw slash lines on paper

To Calm or Soothe Yourself

  • Take a warm shower or bath

  • Pet or cuddle a dog or cat

  • Wrap yourself in a blanket

  • Massage your neck, hands, or feet

  • Listen to calming music

  • Hug a pillow or stuffed animal

  • Paint your nails

  • Watch a favorite movie

  • Re-read a favorite book

  • Go for a nice walk

  • People watch

  • Count ceiling tiles or lights

  • Meditate

Because You Feel Disconnected/ Numb

  • Talk to friends

  • Take a COLD shower

  • Hold ice in the crook of your leg or arm

  • Chew something strong like chili, lemon, or peppermint

  • Snap a rubber band on your wrist for brief periods of time

  • Focus deeply on a piece of chocolate as you eat

  • Blow up a balloon and pop it

  • Connect online with help forums

  • Concentrate on things that have made you happy in the past

Things That Inspire You and Direct Your Energy Outward

  • Perform 1 act of kindness

  • Volunteer somewhere

  • Pay someone a compliment

  • Pay it forward

You know yourself best, so take a few moments to breathe and think about things that may have helped you in the past to calm down. Write them down so you can remember them when you are feeling stressed.

 

 

 

Personal Safety Plan - pdf
Alternative to Cutting and Self Harm - PDF
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A trans supportive community

The Trans Teens Online Chatroom is a weekly moderated group for transgender, non-binary, and gender-expansive youth 19 and younger, to interact in a safe space and to be able to fully express one's self without being made to feel uncomfortable or unwelcome.

Please be respectful of the diversity of all gender identities and expressions. Do not assume anyone’s gender identity or sexual orientation.

Please use a person’s chosen name and pronouns. 

We will not permit sexist, homophobic, transphobic, biphobic, or body-shaming jokes or comments.

Moderators will remove users who promote violence, bullying, sexually explicit language, harassment, or hate speech, or attempt to use the group as a hookup site.

We are here to learn from each other and to support each other.